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You don’t feel like trying again. So why do it? Because loving is the most natural thing to do. We are communal people and as Barbara Streisand sang, “People, people who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” That’s how we are hard wired from birth. As babies we need our caretakers or we literally die. These exercises are designed for you to better understand the nature of your frustration with your partner and for the two of you to being to heal that relationship. Be as honest as you can, be willing to be real. Because the more honest you are, the more thorough your answers, the more realistic the goal of healing this relationship actually is…..click to read whole article

You don’t feel like trying again. So why do it? Because loving is the most natural thing to do. We are communal people and as Barbara Streisand sang, “People, people who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” That’s how we are hard wired from birth. As babies we need our caretakers or we literally die.

These exercises are designed for you to better understand the nature of your frustration with your partner and for the two of you to being to heal that relationship. Be as honest as you can, be willing to be real. Because the more honest you are, the more thorough your answers, the more realistic the goal of healing this relationship actually is…..click to read whole article

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The Butterfly Project: Give it a try!

 

I’ve been reading about the butterfly project, and it sounds like such a great idea. I wanted to write my opinion about it here and hopefully encourage someone to try the project who is currently cutting or struggling in their abstinence. This project seems to be a great inspiration & effort. In the replies to this post, tell me your story of recovery, share your inspirtation with others.

The rules are quite simple to spell out, but for cutters, the rules can be lifesaving. They express a sentiment that’s near and dear to my heart. People hurt us plenty of times, and life is hard. The one thing I hope some of you take from this is that we don’t have to make things worse by harming ourselves.

I think the alternative that the project gives is beautiful and elegant. When my sons were growing up, they had their share of problems, but fortunately they never cut. If they had and I knew about this project, I certainly would have suggested they think about it.


I copied and pasted the rules from the website, The Butterfly Project.

The Rules are:
“1. When you feel like you want to cut, take a marker, pen, or sharpies and draw a butterfly on your arm or hand.
2. Name the butterfly after a loved one, or someone that really wants you to get better.
3. You must let the butterfly fade naturally. NO scrubbing it off.
4. If you cut before the butterfly is gone, you’ve killed it. If you dont cut, it lives.
5. If you have more than one butterfly, cutting kills all of them.
6. Another person may draw them on you. These butterflies are extra special. Take good care of them.
7. Even if you don’t cut, feel free to draw a butterfly anyways, to show your support. If you do this, name it after someone you know that cuts or is suffering right now, and tell them. It could help.

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What is Going On With Our High School Students?

Another shooting? Really? This is really bumming me out. Glad my boys are passed high school, and past college as well. Why is this happening? I guess the most important question is: what can we do to stop it?

Parents, educators, legislators, and all concerned citizens need to come together and work out a plan for every school in America so that our kids can be safe. I grieve for the families who have lost their children through all the senseless violence that’s been occurring more and more frequently over the past few years. I’m enraged that there hasn’t been a plan of action that can be implemented in a flexible way so that each school can find a way to protect its own and so that they can talk to one another and compare notes, so to speak, on the best approaches.

I know people who are experts in disaster mental health and if Mr. Cuomo wishes to ask me I can direct him the right person who can give him a comprehensive plan to make sure our children are safe.

For God sakes let’s make this shooting the last one that ever happens in any one of our schools.

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